The Pastor where I work is not compassionate at all & a perfectionist?

I've worked at churches before and the pastors there were compassionate, kind, understanding. But the one where I work now doesn't seem like she's cut out to be a pastor (it is her 2nd career). She is nitpicky (heaven forbid I miss a comma/period), I feel intimidated whenever she is around me, I have asked her if I could put my mother's name in the church bulletin %26amp; she replied no, my mother is not a member (my mom is in a nursing home with Dementia, I have asked her for prayer for myself (personal matter that I was going thru) %26amp; she wouldn't even do that - she told me I needed to see a therapist. The reason I gave in %26amp; wrote on here was I had the Easter Lily list all ready (I set it up the way it was done last year, and the way the Christmas Poinsettias were set up also) %26amp; she made me change the set up. It's Holy Week, I am pressured - I had caught up the Friday before Holy Week %26amp; now I'm behind again. To top it off, I can't quit - I need the benefits %26amp; wages - what should i do?

The Pastor where I work is not compassionate at all %26amp; a perfectionist?
I feel sorry for you. Sounds like she wasn't able to achieve what she wanted to in life and now she's taking it out on others around her.



One of the unfortunate truths in life is that when you have to stay around someone because you need them, you are at their mercy. If it were me, I would look diligently for another job and pray hard about it.



If there is a higher-up you can discuss this with, by all means do so. But be aware that could make the problem worse, if you complain about her and she finds out about it.



Maybe confront her in a very nice manner and flat out ask if she doesn't like you. Most people, when it is put right too them, will realize how foolish they are acting. It can be a good way to diffuse the situation if it is brought to light that she is being mean to you for no good reason.



Best of luck to you.
Reply:What can I say, she is a christian.



Look into Buddhism.



It is a far more compassionate thought system.



Love and blessings Don
Reply:It is clear (for many reasons) she is not meant to be a pastor.

Beyond the fact she is a she, (yes, God gave definite roles.) it should be OBVIOUS.
Reply:If this is your job, do as your boss expects. Ask questions as to how things should be done if you are unsure.



As for personal advice, go elsewhere. This is a job and you don't bring your personal life to work. Likewise you don't bring your work home with you.



You have options. You can always take your bosses attitude to their boss. Yes even pastors have bosses. You can start looking for another job. Or You can find a more compassionate church home and keep the job you have.
Reply:Why don't you blame God, that always works, Or maybe pray we know that one works. OOOORRRRRR hit him were it hurts and see if he has any.
Reply:I've been there before...!

There is only two answers if it is becoming more than you can handle. Remember God will not give you more than you can handle.

1. Step up~ don't be so meek that you can not confront with boldness the things that YOU know about someone, if it will ultimately further the kingdom of God. If she is a minister... keep in mind not one gift is better than the other. So that does not make you lower than her... you need to address things if they are hindering your ministry to work for the church.

YOU CAN INITIATE THIS BY:

asking if she's doing okay,

inviting her to go eat lunch,

come in a little early or leave a little late a few times just to have an open ear.

2. Continue to be a humble servent to your master (boss).



Personally, I would address the issue by letting her know you have noticed she has been very busy and behind on things and see if there is anything you can do to help. Do this in a friendly character not as a secretary... ask for more responsibility so that things can get done... then establish a trust by praying for her or with her...





(this is why women shouldn't be pastors)
Reply:Look for another job. Not everyone in churches are right with God. It sounds like you got one of those people for a boss.
Reply:She sounds like she chose the wrong career. Personally I would never attend a church with a woman leader because I think I relate better to a man speaking. Anyway if she would have said those things to me, especially about my mother I would be pissed. I think that if you have any friends in the church you need to see how the general congregation feels about her and look into replacing her.
Reply:Anyone who would put a therapist above God should not be a pastor. I'm sorry you're being subjected to this woman. I understand your needs, but I would strongly suggest getting a new job. Good luck and God bless!
Reply:This ignorant "B" is just mean and "received her calling" in order to get her money for nothing.

There is no obligation for preachers to be kind, compassionate, or loving. Many, through out history, have been tyrants or supported by tyrants.

Sweetie, put your mother's name or whomever you want on the list and don't worry about this minor tyrant.
Reply:It sounds like you do not have a realistic view of a job. You are an employee and your supervisor has certain expectations. They are different from what was expected of you before. You will have to change to work with this new supervisor or find another job. If you don't like the atmosphere then you can start looking elsewhere for employment.



I agree that a pastor should be compassionate, and that this woman does not seem to understand what being a pastor is all about, but that has nothing to do with your job.



Step it up or you might just get fired. I'm sorry to have to say that, but it's the cold, hard truth.
Reply:I despair. I can get thousands of thumbs down for this opinion...



But you need to go find a more Bible-Based congregation of Believers.



"see a THERapist?" GOD is our therapist when we are a Christian.



Jesus is our therapy.



It would take too long to list reasons why I say go- but basically, you need to go find a real Spirit filled bunch of believers.



That Church has gone over into a "business" and merely an "organized religion". It needs real religion, real life.
Reply:Try telling them to err is human. Sounds like she hear the wrong call for drill Sargent.